tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6181948577071103793.post8222084112520616179..comments2023-04-29T03:39:48.437-04:00Comments on Too Much Input: Dressing myselfHuman In Progresshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14141421581818137190noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6181948577071103793.post-89447850462098392802013-03-27T15:31:23.046-04:002013-03-27T15:31:23.046-04:00Great comments, thanks! Arwenn, good call on the ...Great comments, thanks! Arwenn, good call on the 3/4 length sleeves. And I'm really drawn to dresses right now, especially ones with an empire waist, because you can't really tell where my legs begin in them so they have a lengthening effect. And you're right, the shoe selection has greatly improved. I can only find cool wide shoes online, though. <br /><br />SFG, duly noted re: pathologizing. And yep, no matter how much people want to insist that they only see the "insides" of others, image matters and has an impact on our lives.Human In Progresshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14141421581818137190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6181948577071103793.post-55994021998186305512013-03-26T16:35:17.742-04:002013-03-26T16:35:17.742-04:00I'm 5'5" and wear petite pants. The w...I'm 5'5" and wear petite pants. The way I get around the sleeve issue since I need longer shirts is that I almost always wear shirts with 3/4 sleeves. On me they come about 6" away from my wrist but I much prefer that to having sleeves that hang over my hands. I wear a lot of long, loose skirts at work because I feel like they draw less attention to my short legs. I wear sandals whenever humanly possible so that I don't have to fight with tights. Doc Martens tend to run wide and I've had better luck with them than with a lot of brands they have a lot of cute shoes and sandals now, not just stompy boots. I don't feel attractive much of the time - combination of weight and depression, but since I do have to go into an office every day my fashion/grooming goal is to look like I am put together deliberately, if not particularly fashionably.<br /><br />Gwynnie Bee is a terrific idea and once I'm losing weight again I'll probably try it.<br /><br />I actually do not wear makeup at the point, never have really and never learned how. I guess I might at some point but right now I think my life is easier without it.Arwennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12538364000414529666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6181948577071103793.post-86948026779641956862013-03-24T18:32:38.628-04:002013-03-24T18:32:38.628-04:00I think it's important to realize that develop...I think it's important to realize that developing a style is not the same as displaying vanity. Beauty matters, but image is really what is at stake. After losing so much weight, I started to get back the groove I had before with wearing a certain style of clothes, even when I'm not working and don't need to show any style. It does, indeed, help your sense of self if you develop a personal style, and it doesn't have to be expensive depending on your options.<br /><br />For me, this style often involves juxtaposing more masculine elements (men's suit jackets, which I've been acquiring second-hand and for free) with more feminine ones (blouses, form fitting sweaters and my super long hair). I don't care if other people think I'm over-dressed or look strange or whatever. I wear what I want to wear each day and looking "nice" makes me feel better when I go about my day.<br /><br />I have always felt it was important not to pathologize anything because there was a darker side to it. Just because "O" is full of commercial opportunists, it doesn't mean there is no value in the content. Just because some well-dressed or beautiful people are vain, it doesn't mean you will be if you are dressing well and look good. screaming fatgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09556199963917842135noreply@blogger.com