I've been doing ok and maintaining near-abstinence when it comes to desserts. A few days ago, I had a weird eating day and later realized I was blowing off steam. The kind of steam that builds as a result of restriction. Everything I ate that day was sweet and rich: a bagel with flavored cream cheese from Panera's, a chocolate whey protein-banana smoothie, and a small amount of rice pudding. I ate very little for the day, but I didn't consider it an abstinent day by any means.
Yesterday, for the 4th of July, I didn't buy any sweet drinks like soda or lemonade, any chips, any desserts. I told our guests they were free to bring anything they liked, and let them know we would be grilling meat and veggies and serving watermelon on the side. They didn't bring anything to supplement our meal, but then we all went out for frozen custard and I did order a kid's size vanilla custard in a cup. I liked it, but wanted more once it was over...and then felt that old anger and exasperation at always wanting MORE.
For now, I feel fine with how I'm doing. Abstinence isn't torture day-in and day-out, the way it was when I was trying Overeater's Anonymous. If every now and then I blow off steam or have a treat on a holiday or special day, it's fine. It's what I would call near-abstinence, and I'm pleased with it because it means I'm not having sweets every single day anymore.
I have experienced a lot of bored and dull feelings lately, and I think it's because I've taken away a big source of fun and pleasure from my daily routine by omitting sweets. Even though I was no longer regularly binging on sweets, they obviously remained an important part of my day and a major source of entertainment. But that's the point--I don't want sweets to be my daily entertainment anymore. I don't want them to be a "necessary" part of my day in any amount or in any fashion. It'll take awhile for something else to fill the vacuum that's been created; I'm going to let that unfold naturally.
So that's where I am: near-abstinent, mostly at peace, more bored than usual. Also up a couple of pounds since cutting sweets, but I attribute that to the fact that I'm 15 weeks pregnant and weight gain was going to start happening at some point!